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What is Trauma ?

Trauma doesn’t have to be a one big event that happened in order to leave you with long lasting effects into adulthood

It can be events that happened in childhood that you interpreted as your fault, internalised them and made a belief about yourself that you are bad, or wrong.

Trauma is stored in the body, (somatically) and affects our behaviour and responses, for many Complex PTSD, trauma sufferers these responses feel beyond their control, we commonly know them as triggers, disassociation or disregulation

And this is our nervous systems responding to past events as if it were happening in that moment, effectively keeping us away from perceived danger.

And that’s why to heal holistically from trauma and narcissistic abuse it’s important to have a bottom up approach, heal the nervous system first, and date stamp the events in the past.

Then we can move on to working with the root cause of the wounds and beliefs

And then theres the best part is the growth after the trauma , Post traumatic growth is so powerful !

Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissist abuse is emotional abuse that a narcissist consciously or unconsciously uses to manipulate their partners, children, friends, colleagues to fulfil their needs.

Being in any relationship with a narcissist parent, partner or colleague can lead to Complex PTSD as well as a whole host of other negative feelings ,beliefs and emotions as well as physical presentations of the anxiety and stress

  • Anxiety

  • Low self worth

  • Devalued

  • Worthlessness

  • Shame

  • Unlovable

  • Suicidal

  • Feeling out of control

  • Pain

Narcissistic Abuse needs to be looked at through the same trauma informed lens as all other emotional traumas

Healing is Possible

On my own healing journey from the wounds of a narcissistic mother and a co-dependent and abusive father, I discovered in order to heal holistically I would have take control of my triggers (nervous system work) uncover the root cause of my wounds and negative beliefs, look after my inner child and build myself esteem and confidence and my life to where I wanted it to be, not where my childhood traumas and maternal narcissistic abuse took me.

Healing isn’t a destination it’s a journey and it doesn’t happen by itself, with the passing of time or talking about the trauma and abuse just doesn’t heal those deep wounds.

If you want to do that and I know YOU CAN you need to be intentional about your healing and take the first step

Some of the tools we’ll use to get you to your goals

  • Polyvagal Theory -getting to know your nervous system

  • Neuroscience - there’s science behind behind the theory

  • Self Navigation Mapping ™ Traffic Lights of Tolerance ™- spotting what triggers you and puts in you into fight flight freeze

  • Trauma Bonding - it really isn’t your fault you cant just leave

  • Parts work - using the Internal family systems (IFS) Theory of inner guardians and protector parts to check out which ones are causing those destructive behaviours albeit with a loving intention

  • RTT - using hypnosis to uncover the root cause of those childhood wounds and install new positive beliefs

  • Somatic Belief Reprogramming - we have to look to the past to heal our future - finding your inner child and healing those wounds

  • Positive Psychology -developing good habits and nurturing those positive emotions

  • Brainspotting - “where you look affects how you feel”